this blog post link, but I think you really need to read it. A Catholic friend of mine posted it on Facebook, and when I read the title, I thought, that's just cruel.I mean, we can't protect our children from everything, right? Then, I read the article and thought, Dang, I think this lady is right. If I may, here is the quote that really got me, "A teenager opens her heart to someone who says, 'I love you…until I don’t.' And when it does end, her heart is wounded. She’ll open it again, most likely, when the next guy comes along, but certainly not as fully as she did that first time. And with each breakup, her ability to trust and believe she deserves unconditional love will be eroded. Then one day she’ll meet the person God intended for her all along. And then that man, who deserves full access to his wife’s heart, must instead spend years if not decades taking down the wall around his beloved’s heart, brick by brick." Wow. The writer is totally right. I can think of some girlfriends who were emotionally damaged by the intense sexuual and romantic realtionships they had with men who said they loved them only to use my girlfriends and leave them in the dust. Indeed, these same girlfriends did have trouble in future relationships because of the emotional wounds created by previous boyfriends. I have to say I wholeheartedly agree with the writer's arguement, yet I don't think I have the courage of conviction to enforce this rule with our children. I would feel terrible, thinking I was denying them some sort of rite of passage as a teenager. I started dating at 14 years old, and I turned okay, right? I would be lying though if I didn't admit that I have often wondered how I turned out differently than some of my other friends. Yikes. This is a tough one. Great article. Great discussion piece. Enjoy.
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